Thursday, May 6, 2010

The NCMO

If you haven't noticed, we Mormons are big fans of using acronyms.

For example, BYU, LDS, BOM, DTR, and the infamous NCMO.

For those of you who are unfamiliar, NCMO is an acronym for Non-Committal Make Out.

Mormons love making out. I mean, just check out Mormon Bachelor Pad's blog. That in and of itself is evidence enough. Not to mention the increasing popularity of Mormon dating blogs lately. They seem to just be popping up all over the place.
***disclaimer***
I do not market this as a Mormon dating blog. I may on occasion every now and then document a date or boyfriend or ex, but that is not the principal purpose. Its really more of a venting and opinion stating place where I poke fun and criticize stereotypes etc etc. You get the picture.
***disclaimer end***

Anyways.
I am in support of the concept, and have myself participated in a NCMO in the past.

I have also been criticized for said involvement.

My belief is that, regardless of what others may think, Everyone would be a little better off is they themselves participated in a NCMO every now and then. Especially some Mormons.

Mormons have this bizarre, ultra suppressed sexuality. It likely comes from the fact that, for pretty much our entire lives, we are forced to suppress ourselves. We're taught that every little sexual desire or feeling is bad bad bad, and we're terrible sinners for feeling the slightest bit of lust after anyone. And then, when we do actually get married, that ultimate quintessential goal that we're raised to believe is THE big thing that we all want no matter what, we go from believing that sexual anything is bad/evil/lusting, to being told we have to engage in it immediately. And not only that, we're expected to procreate practically immediately.

Tell me you don't see something wrong with this.

Now, don't quote me on this, but I heard from a friend who supposedly read a study that said that BYU nearly fifty percent of both genders of students at BYU had admitted anonymously to masturbation at some point in their lives. Now I don't know how accurate this is, but if it is true, well, yeah. Its because we are so intensely frustrated with our sexuality, who can blame them, really?

Therefore, I prefer to indulge in a nice, calming make out once in a while. I don't exactly go out and make out with someone new every weekend or anything, but I am sooooo not about to let myself go crazy, if you know what I mean. And I think you do.

5 comments:

  1. you should probably masturbate just to take the edge off a little bit. Just some advice.

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  2. I've actually never gone with a NCMO, though I have to admit, due to a lot of the "repression" I've been interested at times to just have that hormonal satisfaction without having to worry. What I've come to found though is that most of the people I'm attracted enough and trust enough to get intimate (even making out can be intimate) are almost always someone I would actually like to date. So I've had a few times where something that was probably started as a NCMO ended up being a very significant relationship.

    on another note, the Church doesn't teach that sex itself is bad, just that it is meant to be expressed only in marriage between man and wife. the problem is people often assume other things or aren't very good at communicating that.

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  3. You say that you enjoy laughing at ignorance... yet you are a Mormon! How does that work exactly?

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  4. You say that you enjoy laughing at ignorance... yet you are a Mormon! How does that work exactly?

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  5. Sorry I've come on scene a little late with my comments, but I'm writing this immediately following sharing your post with my 16-year old daughter. Your post says: "We're taught that every little sexual desire or feeling is bad bad bad, and we're terrible sinners for feeling the slightest bit of lust after anyone." What??!! ��
    No, seriously. Listen...I'm an "old" guy (59), pretty conservative libertarian-style, very active Mormon-all-my-life guy. But I have never heard the "bad, bad, bad...terrible sinners" shtick. I'm wondering where you got it. My wife and I have always taught our children -- as we have understood church doctrine -- that sex is a wonderful power...please learn to control it and use it as intended. Whoever taught you what you have expressed was lying to you.

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